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From “TEACH TANTRA”*** by Sasha Alex Lessin, Ph.D. & Janet Kira Lessin

Center yourself with the simple technique we outline here to access, own and integrate your shadow and spiritual selves–our less known inner voices (also known as parts, personality aspects, roles, subselves, subpersonalities, egos). We center when we hold the tension between opposed inner voices. Centered, we recognize, embrace and coordinate our protective, vulnerable, instinctual and spiritual subselves. Centering’s easier when we review how we develop our many inner selves. 



As a baby and a kid we needed our parents’ love to survive, get along and feel okay. We imprinted our neediness; part of us, our VULNERABLE CHILD, stays needy forever. 

The Child within always feels things with its heart. It remembers everything it ever felt. It remains sensitive to every change and nuance around it. The Child contributes or withdraws warmth as we relate to others. It’s the part that tells we who we can trust and when to leave painful situations we can’t change. But the Child can feel insecure. Other people can easily scare, shame or hurt it. Far too sensitive to live and make decisions in the world, the Child needs protection.



So we developed PROTECTIVE inner VOICES to make people approve of us. Protective voices tell we how to get what we want. They say what to do and avoid so people, especially our family, won’t scorn, shun, neglect, punish or abuse us. 

Protective voices hide our inner instinctual voices–our selfish, sexual and angry voices from other people and even from ourselves. If our parents dislike our psychic, spiritual, creative or archetypal voices, we hide these voices too. We disown the impulses the hidden instinctual and spiritual voices press we to express. The voices we disown, collectively comprise our SHADOW. 

The voices comprising our shadow, built from the attitudes of our parents, differ from the shadow voices of other people. If our parents suppressed, for example, our Inner Bard, our Bard becomes a shadow voice. If, on the other hand, they honored our Bard, and taught we to disown our Inner Sexy Side, the Sexy Side would enter the shadow while our Bard might become a primary self. 

The shadow anger, sexuality, creativity and spirituality we repress sensitize us to angry, sexy, creative and spiritual expression in other people. When we perceive others as lusty, aggressive, artistic or saintly, we feel critical or admiring of this expression in them. 

Protective voices, like our Pleaser, Thinker, Pusher, Critic, or even Rebel distract us. We forget we feel vulnerable, scared, insecure, hurt. We forget we feel angry, sexy, creative or spiritual–we forget our shadow and we forget our Child.



Hal and Sidra Stone suggest we see ourselves as broader than our Reasoner, Pusher, Critic and other protective voices. Value these voices as parts of us. Recognize and respect protective voices and feel the Child, and the shadow voices too. Then we feel most alive and make contact with other people. 

We grow in consciousness, according to the Stones, when we simultaneously consider the Child’s needs, the needs of the disowned shadow voices and the needs of the protective voices. From our Center, which the Stones call our “Aware Ego”, we can share as much of our vulnerability, creativity, sexuality and assertion as we choose for any situation. From our Center, we reveal enough vulnerability to connect intimately without becoming too open. And, from our Center, we use protective, instinctual, creative and spiritual voices enough to be powerful. As an Aware Ego, we balance vulnerability, power, instinctuality and spirituality. 



We identify alternate personalities. We change chairs and speak as our various voices. 

First, we take an initial position, that it’ll be the place for our Aware Ego, the place to hear our inner voices. 

We talk about the voices active in us lately (like Intellect, Critic, Pleaser, Pusher), the ones we show the world and ones we feel inside. 

We choose one of our public voices. Say what this voice is like and what it does for us. 

Then we shift to a position for the voice we’ve chosen to focus upon. Embody that voice and say who, as that self, we are and what we do for the whole person we are.

 s this self, we say when we came out in full and our subsequent History as this subself. We say how, as this voice, we protect other, vulnerable subselves. We tell the contributions we make and what we’d like to be acknowledged and appreciated for. 

Then we return to the Aware Ego position and go through this dialogue procedure with the other voices that we and our protective selves agree to express. 

Next, we stand in the Awareness and summarize what our subselves said. Impartially–without any need to decide anything–feel the energy of each of ourselves. 

Then we return to the Discerning Center (Aware Ego) position and feel ourselves able to simultaneously feel and appreciate all the voices we embody. We feel our ability, in this position, to make appropriate choices, taking all our voices into consideration.



* Based on Stone, H. and Winkleman, S., Embracing Our Selves, New World Library, 1989; The Child Within, Delos Tapes: Albion, 1991.

** Tantra means “weaving” in the sense of the weft and warp of our personalities into a grid. When we practice tantra, we weave the energy of chakras.

Chakras indicate our personality dimensions: vulnerability, sex, power, love, communication, thought and spirituality. In tantra, we pair these personality dimensions with our perineums (bases), genitals, stomachs, hearts, mouths, eyes, and crowns. Within each dimension All-Chakra Tantra teaches us to coordinate two or more distinct subselves within each chakra’s dimension. We learn how to integrate the seven chakras with each other dimension within us. We synergize our chakras with our lovers’. 



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**TEACH TANTRA is a manual for you to experience advanced tantra, teach it to others and, optionally, attain certification as a tantra teacher. You learn to teach lovers and students how to:
* Master advanced tantra techniques
* Open all energy vortexes (chakras) to each other
* Refine relations
* Encourage female ejaculation and master male ejaculatory control
* Find meaning and purpose in relationships and life
* Reprogram parent imprints that diminish sex and love
* Get satisfaction and sustain sex
* Mutually make more in sexualloving
* Delve dreams and pastlives
* Worship women and gratify guys



For the Student and for the people you teach: TANTRA FOR ALL CHAKRAS at